Mental models + my son’s broken nose

Over the last couple months, my son Jacques has had the sniffles – not COVID but still annoying for him and, I’m not gonna lie, more so for me. He said he had trouble blowing his nose.

I’ve also noticed recently that my tweenager’s nose is a wee bit crooked. In the most charming of ways, of course. The other night, I mentioned this observation to him.

He casually replied that it was probably from that accident at skateboarding camp in the second grade.

Uh. Excuse me?!

This was new news to me. Apparently, he had injured his nose, no bleeding, no bruising. And just happened to forget to tell me and his dad. It healed on its own – hence the asymmetry.

I took a flashlight to collect some first-party data (as researchers are prone to do) and looked up his nose myself. And then I saw it, clear as day. I saw what I can only describe as a “mass” – a big one that blocked about 90% of his nostril.

As someone who has the pleasure of breathing through both of her nostrils, I immediately went into mama-bear mode. I booked him a visit to his pediatrician the next day. Then an ENT (ear, nose, throat) consult for the following week. And of course I proceeded to read all the info I could find online about deviated septums — readying Jacques and myself for next steps on booking what would surely be pediatric septoplasty.

The (very young) ENT doctor examined my son’s nose with his nose tool thingys. Listened to Jacques talk about his symptoms. Asked him questions. All very slowly. Very patiently. Very methodically.

Too slowly, too patiently, and too methodically in my opinion. I could feel my anxiety creeping up with every passing second. I mean, CLEARLY he sees what I see up there, and OBVIOUSLY there’s a giant mass blocking his right nostril, right? I wanted to fast-track this process, like yesterday!! Why was this Doogie Howser slow-walking this issue?!

Putting down his nose tool thingy, Doc explained: “Jacques’s dealing with multiple issues/conditions here. Let’s tackle each one at a time to minimize error. The sniffling nose could be allergies or it could be something else. And yes, he probably has a deviated septum from that injury a few years back.

Doc: “So, let’s start here.” He handed me a prescription for Flonase. I stared at the paper. Then the doctor. Then the paper.

Me: “Yeah, ok. He’s sniffling… But shouldn’t we also get on the schedule for the surgeon ASAP? His nostril is totally blocked! Look at that mass; it’s huge.”

I’m not the best actress, so he could hear my agitation with his approach. After all, I had already read about treatments! I could even say “septoplasty” 5 times fast. I KNEW what the problem was: My son can’t breathe through half his face for chrissake! I guess I came across a bit forceful.

Doc: “Clearly YOU seem to want surgery” (insert eyeroll here). I stared at him.

He quickly went on to explain, “We should take it step by step. First, let’s treat the symptoms we KNOW we can treat immediately and with the least invasive methods. Then we can cross that off the list of complications before getting to the surgery part. Yes, we will probably move to surgery to correct the septum. But he still can breathe through his other nostril. So there’s no immediate danger.”

Setting my ego aside for a moment… Doc was applying some very basic practical wisdom that I was lacking in my mama-bear moment. When I thought my son couldn’t breathe, it felt like the only correct solution was to rush to the most permanent (and the most extreme) one.

But what I should have recognized, was that my son’s doctor was applying mental models, much like I do in my work with clients. Mental models are useful for decision-making, especially when you’re deciding what problems to solve, how to solve them, and in what order.

As marketers, we can apply mental models too.

Let’s take one mental model, Occam’s Razor*, which can be summarized as follows:

Among competing hypotheses, the one with the fewest assumptions should be selected.

As an example, imagine you are a marketer for a consumer goods brand and your company isn’t selling as much product as you need. As a direct-to-consumer company, imagine also that among your immediate competitors, your MSRP is on the higher end of the pricing scale. The obvious solution you might come to is to drop your product’s price, right?

Imagine next, as one of the better marketers in the biz, you don’t jump to conclusions just yet. (Good for you!) You take a deep breath and apply some practical wisdom. You have a number of levers you could pull, right?

Let’s look at the 4 Ps.

Price & Product: The most obvious decision could be to lower prices to be more competitive. A pricing study done properly will take time, money, and effort. You don’t want to get this wrong — because you know that once you lower the price of your product it’s hella hard to get it back up again. Generally speaking, you should hold the line on price.

Promotion: You could also look at your communications and advertising mix — and rebalance your long and short marketing mix to improve awareness, consideration, or preference for your brand — so that consumers choose your brand over others when they are buying in your category.

Placement: As a DTC marketer, your primary sales channel is probably through your own site. You’ve probably applied all the best practices to the website design. The UX/UI team designed it to meet all the best standards for e-commerce. But does your site align with the decision-making journey that your consumer takes when buying in your category?

Imagine that you loosely apply Occam’s Razor to this question. Let’s call it Emelia’s Eliminator:
Among competing reasons for low customer adoption, eliminate the simplest ones first, then work your way to more complex ones.

You’re looking for the simplest relevant question to solve. Not unlike the ENT who wanted to address the allergies before going straight to surgery. You’d do this by asking yourself: “Is the problem caused by our price? What is the simplest thing I can test and address first to knock out any easy-to-solve issues that might help nudge up sales now?”

Well, it’s probably the placement lever. Namely, what can you do to better understand how users are experiencing the website? Are there ways to make the e-commerce process better, easier, and smoother to complete the sale? Can you further refine to nudge the user to purchase?

So here’s the rub: Whether you’re dealing with a deviated septum or lower-than-expected sales and revenue, start with the least invasive corrective actions before you cut anything more permanent.

PS: Here’s a good piece about pricing by Mark Ritson.

* Farnam Street blog has an excellent summary of the idea.

My Closet Cleanse Turned Branding Tip for 2022 (and beyond)

It’s a new year, and while I’m not one to make resolutions, I decided to go dry this January (well, my closet is anyway).

I’m somebody who loves clothes. My closet brings me great joy. And I’m privileged to have been able to amass a delightful collection of clothing over the years.

But I’m also loathe to get rid of things that are still beautiful and in good condition, which means my closet is packed. We’re talking Tetris-level-packed.

January feels like a natural time to take a fresh look at things. All the things. Including my clothes shopping habit. So, I’m aiming for a no/low buy January (which hopefully 🤞🏼 turns into a dry 2022).

How does that saying go? A goal without a plan is just a wish…so as part of that I decided to kick things off by reorganizing my closet on New Year’s Day. It used to be arranged by garment type (all the dresses together here, all the pants together there, etc.). But, I’m a wild and crazy gal. I switched it up, and my clothes are now arranged by color. It looks like a rainbow every time I open the closet, which definitely ups the fun factor!

I was feeling good! I thought, “hey let's swap the location of my bags/purses/wallets for my shoes and boots.” But my 1-hour rainbow closet project took an unexpected turn. And in the process of this re-org, I discovered something.

My cherished vintage wallets (that belonged to my mother and grandmother) had developed some unsightly mold.

I used my trusty mold-crusher mixture*, and meticulously cleaned each piece to refresh it. This turned the closet re-org into a 3-day affair.

But it turned out to be a good thing. After reorganizing and giving the space a good cleaning** - I had to take a step back in awe of how awesome my closet looks now. And it doesn’t just look nice - it’s more functional.

It’s inspiring me to see new outfit combinations and new iterations of looks that I can play and experiment with. And yeah. Ok. It adds more fun and creativity to my daily “getting dressed” routine by forcing me to turn in a tighter circle. Instead of spending money and adding yet more new clothes into the mix that I don’t need and can’t fit into the small space, I can shop my closet better and build outfits that look and feel familiar, yet new.

This idea isn’t just for closets. It applies to marketing and branding as well. Effective visual identity systems enable you to bring your brand to life in ways that feel familiar, yet new. That’s because your brand is not a static thing. Brands are behaviors. And sometimes you gotta mix things up a bit.

Hey, I get it. Sometimes it can feel like your brand’s look and feel needs an overhaul - maybe it feels static, stale, or just limited or doesn’t have enough diversity. Maybe you inherited it from a previous team and you’re just bored with seeing it day in and day out.

You’re not alone. Many marketers think the solution is a complete brand renovation. And in a few cases, they're right.

But oftentimes, this boredom, this dissatisfaction you feel with your brand’s VIS may stem from how you are (and are not) activating it.

To that I say, shake what your mama gave you.

Before you toss it all out and go through the process of a total rebrand - take a look at your current brand elements with fresh eyes. Assess how you’re using your current identity system (an outside design team can be super helpful with this). And play with it. Mix it up. Push it to the boundaries. Break it and see what happens.

At the end of the day, you might decide a complete overhaul is indeed what’s required. But you also might find that with a bit of reorganization, tweaks to how the current system is being activated, and with a bit of sprucing up - it just needs small refinements to feel fresh and new again. Not unlike my wardrobe.

What about you? What can you take a look at with fresh eyes in this new year? Drop a comment below and let me know.



*Mix equal parts of plain cool water and rubbing alcohol in a clean container. Wipe down the leather using a clean cloth dipped in the mixture. Use a cotton swab to reach the crevices and other hard-to-reach areas if needed. Let dry completely before storing.

**Oh, and investing in a dehumidifier.

Bake a cake + grow your market share

Here in San Francisco, our masks might be coming down — but like every year before this, we have our sweaters and parkas at the ready for the cold summer season. (It’s nicknamed “Fog City” for a reason.)

My weekends are marked by a weekly shop up at our local farmers market. It’s one of my favorite rituals of the week. Especially this time of year. “But Emelia,” you might ask, “Why?”

Because FRUIT.

The sheer bounty of yumminess: Strawberries. Nectarines. Pluots. Plums. Apricots. Cherries. Peaches. The list goes on. I’m baking like crazy over here. I’m whipping up smoothies, fruit cakes, compotes, fresh fruit salads, you name it. But strawberry sponge cake is my latest masterpiece. Because let’s face it. There’s a short window of time to make all this stuff when it’s nice and fresh from the market.

If I’m honest, there’s something about the limited-time-offer-ness of seasonal produce. Summer fruits present a limited window of opportunity to savor the tastes of this season when they’re at their best.

And if you’re like me, you DON’T want to miss it.*

Same with marketing. It never feels good to miss that window of opportunity to grow your brand’s market share. Growing your market share vs your competition is an important part of the health of your brand, so you’ll probably grab that chance when it presents itself, right?

Especially before your competitor beats you to it.

I know. There are a number of factors that impact a brand’s ability to grow market share (all the caveats here about impactful creative, effective pricing, not having a crappy product, etc.).

But from a marketing standpoint, there is a clear and important relationship between your brand's market share and its share of voice. Professor John Philip Jones wrote about it many years ago and explained that:

  • There's a very consistent correlation between a brand's share of voice and its share of market.

  • If a brand underspends so that its share of market is > than its share of voice, then it's likely that its market share will fall to its share of voice.

  • If a brand's share of voice spend = the brand's share of market, then it's (at least slightly) underspending.

  • Brands with much a bigger market share could get away with significantly less share of voice, while smaller brands are in the inverse position and need to invest in a greater share of voice than their share of market might initially suggest. (see why I’m talking about windows of opportunity?)


You probably know what your brand’s market share is already. But do you know your share of voice relative to your competitors? If not, then I recommend you find it out. I realize it’s not easy to get that info, but give it a try.

And as a not-so-shameless plug, Pebble can help you do just that. It’s part of our new data-powered insights offering that quantifies your brand’s health relative to your competition. Contact me if you want to learn more. I’d be berry happy to hear from you. **

You will indeed reap the fruits of your effort, and open that window of opportunity to grow your brand just a bit wider than before.

Until next time,
Emelia "is so punny" Rallapalli



* Ok fine. If you’re like me, you also get fresh pizza at the market too.

** Hey c’mon. I like puns… just dill with it.

PS: While her recipe is behind a NYTimes paywall, here’s a link to Claire Saffitz making the sponge cake. https://youtu.be/N4nvGZTC9RE

PPS: You can read Professor Jones's detailed explanation here. https://hbr.org/1990/01/ad-spending-maintaining-market-share

Tapping my inner (pickle)baller - plus a new video series from Pebble

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(Pulls down mask)

It’s been waaaay more than a minute, hasn’t it? Thanks for embracing my quiet streak during this crazy time, and also for sticking around for these missives. I hope these past 12+ months have found you stronger, more resilient, more compassionate, increasingly courageous, and closer to those you love.

Interestingly this period has been a time for experimentation and trying out new things, both personally and professionally.

On the personal side, I’ve recently taken up pickleball, the fastest-growing sport in America.*

I’ve been welcomed with open paddles to the local gang of neighbors who play daily. A few are my age. But many are grandmas and grandpas who Kick. My. Ass. Every. Single. Time.

I learned a brilliant lesson last week, as I was playing doubles with Felix, one my neighbors. Every time we missed a ball or blew a return he’d holler “dammit, it’s the wind’s fault!” But whenever he’d make a great shot and win the point, he’d declare “No mercy!"

Talk about a creative interpretation of reality.

I found myself laughing with Felix and doing the same: blaming the wind when I missed a ball, but taking full credit when I made the point.

This is a new game for me. And I’m not gonna lie. I’m a solid beginner. Which is just enough skill to make it fun for me to play, even when I’m hitting falafals, dead balls, or volley llamas in the kitchen (Hey, if you know, you know).

On the professional side, I did something new - and super fun! I recently had the good fortune to sit down for a conversation with creative director, friend, and occasional co-conspirator Theo Fanning. In front of a camera. In the same room!** And I want to share it with you here first, dear reader.

That’s the thing with me. Sometimes, I like to mix it up, keep things interesting. We can be lifetime students and have a growth mindset no matter what our age.

Doing something new is fun. Doing it with others is even funner. 


So, click below to watch the 4-episode series as Theo and I chat about the relationship between research, strategy, and creative (don’t worry, no punches were thrown).

If you like what you see, then all the credit goes to my unbridled brilliance (“no mercy"!). If you don’t like it, then ….well then, I don’t wanna hear it.

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If what Theo and I talk about is relevant and interesting, please share it with others. And more than anything else, I hope you enjoy it. Until next time!


*Just imagine tennis and ping pong met up at a bar one night, got super drunk, hooked up, and had a baby. That’s pickleball.

**(If you’re wondering, everyone was fully vaccinated when we filmed it).

Food & Grocery Insights: How the pandemic is affecting consumer behavior

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Curious about how COVID-19 is impacting food & grocery habits?


My colleague (Susan Blank at QuestResearch Group) and I were, so we gathered data during the week of April 27, 2020 (from about 1000 Americans aged 18+) and found some interesting, and not-so-surprising insights.

One thing is for certain: experimentation and adaptation are the name of the game. New habits mean new opportunities for brands.

Check out our analysis below.
(if you’d like to download the infographic click here)

Gen Z Insights: Tech in the Time of COVID

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Curious about how COVID-19 is impacting Gen Z household’s use of technology?


My colleague (Susan Blank at QuestResearch Group) and I were, so we gathered data during the first weeks since the pandemic started, and found some interesting, and not-so-surprising insights.

Check out our analysis below.
(if you’d like to download the infographic click here)


(Tea)bags of Hope: Optimism in the Time of COVID

There are two kinds of people in this world:

1. Those who steep their teabags once
2. Those who steep their teabags twice*

Let me explain.

In a previous life, hubby and I used to drink a ton of coffee. However, since my acupuncturist wagged her finger at me and told me I need to cut waaaaay back to 1 cup per day** — David has joined me in solidarity… and has taken to drinking herbal tea throughout the rest of the day.

One morning, I noticed a buildup of teabags, one after the other, in a little bowl on our counter. In a rare effort on my part to keep things clean, I started to throw them in the compost bin.

One day, David caught me tossing his latest collection. “What are you doing? I was saving those!”
“For what?” I asked.
“For my next cup of tea,” he answered.
“Yeah, right. I’ve never seen you reuse a teabag.”
“But I want to. And one day, I might.”

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That’s when I realized those teabags were not trash. They were little wet bags o’ hope, that we might get a second cup of tea from the same bag.

Maybe it’s the shelter-in-place talking. Or my comfy pants. Or the Zoom meeting background photo-induced hallucinations. But this little action was a sign to me that change is possible. It was an optimistic reminder that we can do better. That things will be better. That we could all use an extra dose of optimism right now, not just at home – but in business, too.

I’m not gonna lie. Things are tough right now for the Pebble team. But I’m sure they’re tough for you, too.

There’s a *bleep*ton of things happening to all of us that we don’t have control over. 

One audiobook that I’ve found helpful during all of this is about behavior design, called Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything by BJ Fogg. It’s a good listen (or read if that’s how you roll), and it has me thinking about business in the time of COVID-19. Check it out.

Real talk, mkay. We don’t have (as much) control (as we think we do) over what happens. But we do have control over how we respond. We have control over WHAT WE DO.

This pandemic will challenge the ‘go big or go home’ mythology that business holds dear. So, what if this time isn’t about making ginormous, sweeping, seismic changes? Instead, what if it’s about focusing on the small, positive steps that move us forward (emphasis on small).

Tiny actions coupled with reflection and iteration just might help us get to the other side of this. 

Two questions that have been helping me lately are, “What can I control? And what matters?” (I keep this little Venn diagram on my desk as a reminder. Maybe you’ll find it helpful, too.)

Diagrams, diagrams. Venn will they end?

Diagrams, diagrams. Venn will they end?

Practically speaking, I’ve been reframing how I stay connected to clients and colleagues. For example, I’m sending more video notes to say hi and check-in. It fills my bucket (or cup, in this case) and my clients enjoy it, too. Small. Incremental. Action. And maybe a cup of quaran-tea, for good measure. *wink*

In the spirit of taking small, hopeful action: send a message to someone you know, love, or who needs to hear from you. And take care of yourself and your family. Be kind to each other. We’ve got this.

*Spoiler alert: I’m team reuse-your-teabag, for sure.

** Fear not. I’m a rebel and I still have 2 cups each morning.

Daring Creatively: 4 Things Marketers Can Learn From Brené Brown (on Medium)

For something a little different - my recent article Daring Creatively: 4 Things Marketers Can Learn From Brené Brown is featured in Better Marketing on Medium. Here’s a snippet, but do head over and read the post in its entirety if you’re inclined.

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Last year, I started reading the works of the storyteller, vulnerability researcher, and bona fide Oprah BFF, Dr. Brené Brown. Her work resonates with me as a researcher and as a branding specialist. I’ve realized that what Brown has found in her work on vulnerability and shame applies to how businesses can build brands.

The marketing pendulum has swung toward an emphasis on media and data collection. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Better targeting can be good for the advertiser as well as help the intended audience connect with the products and services they want.

However, could this pendulum have swung too far?

Bob Hoffman said it well, “The online ad industry claims that they are entitled to some extra value — the value of knowing every little thing about us. This goes by the benign name of data collection, but what it really is is intrusive surveillance into personal aspects of our lives to which they have no legitimate claim.”

Brands have gone from earning consumer attention through interesting creative (a fair value exchange, in my opinion) to manipulating consumer attention by collecting, tracking, and selling people’s personal data. Is that branding, at all? How do you stand apart in a world where marketers have access to the same media platforms, channels, and data points?

Here is where creativity becomes, in the words of adman Bill Bernbach, “the last unfair advantage we’re legally allowed to take over our competitors.” Have advertisers thought more about the pipe, but forgotten about the stuff they send down it?

It’s the stuff in the pipes that is critical to building attention-grabbing brands. Yet it’s also the most challenging part for marketers to deliver.

And that’s where we can take inspiration from Dr. Brown.

Continue reading on Medium

Bad haircuts and the future of education

I grew up in a loving, but strict household. There were some really important rules that I had to abide by, but I also had a strange amount of freedom in other ways.

Case in point: my mum was rather lenient with me about my appearance. For instance, when it came to my hair, I had the freedom to style it in some really crazy ways. This raised eyebrows at school sometimes. Like that time my mom attended a PTA meeting, and another mom said to her, “Emelia’s such a pretty girl. How can you let her LOOK like THAT?”*

For your consideration, Exhibit A (I mean, seriously. Look at those bangs.):

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Mum simply told her (loud enough for the other parents to hear) — and I’m paraphrasing — “Because she’s a good kid and a hard-working student. And as long as she continues that way, how she chooses to dress or cut her hair doesn’t matter to me. It always grows back.” …Oh, and she told that mom to mind her own f-ing business.

(I made up that last sentence with the expletive. Mum doesn’t cuss. Too much. But you get the idea.)

Or when it came to my fashion choices…they were, ehem, unique. For instance, when I wore sheer dhoti pants to school, and the headmaster issued me a referral for the dress code violation because the pants were see-through and he wasn’t sure what to make of the leggings underneath.

Or that time I fashioned a makeshift sarong from the set of curtains in my parents’ bedroom because I liked the paisley pattern. My mum helped me wrap it correctly. And I was so proud it didn’t unravel and fall off during class.

And before you ask, No. I don’t have pictures of these fabulous ensembles. Because...pre-internet.

And why I wasn’t invited to the Met Gala is beyond me.

Now that I’m a parent myself, I realize that this was quite a brilliant parenting strategy on my mother’s part. During this formative time in my life, when I needed to experiment and find my individuality, this was a way for my parents to allow me the freedom to express myself creatively, while still ensuring I stuck to the “important” rules.**

So it probably won’t be a surprise when I tell you that, unlike my personal appearance, my studies were serious business and something my parents cared about deeply. Going to college was a non-negotiable.

And I was extremely lucky because while many of my friends had to work part-time jobs to pay for school or take out loans, my family helped me avoid student loan debt by paying for my education. (And don’t think I don’t know how privileged I am. I am thankful. Every. Day. Of. My. Life.)

If it was tough for parents and students to do that back in the 80’s, today it’s worse. But you already know that.


Things are different for high school and college students nowadays. A good-paying job and economic security are not a given for today’s graduates. US wage growth has stagnated. The cost of living and healthcare? They’re going up. Student debt is debilitatingly high — causing many young people to put off marriage, children, and homeownership. Some are even wondering if they should go to college (which breaks my heart) for fear of being buried in debt when they graduate.

Which is why a project I recently worked on in collaboration with my colleagues at QuestResearch Group and our client Kaplan is interesting. And I’d like to share it with you here.

Some key takeaways from the research include:

  • Higher education is poised for some serious disruption

  • Parents are questioning the value of a US college education, and are looking for more affordable solutions

  • They place a high value on work, but also on the social skills that a college experience offers

If you want to get a glimpse into what we found about the future of work and higher education, then download the report here.

Until next time,

Emelia “Epic Bangs” Rallapalli


*You can’t see it in this pic, but I had an undercut with designs shaved in the back of my head…IN THE 80’S. #aheadofmytime #punintended

**David and I are experiencing this now. We’re letting our son grow out his hair in what I can only describe as a mullet. While it’s not my first choice, he loves it. And that’s good enough for me.


I am KILLING it. (And other lies I tell myself)

I just got back from a trip to Nepal with Mum. Was a “bucket list” trip for her and I was happy to join in the adventure. Kathmandu, Pokhara, and a few leisurely strolls along the Annapurna range in the Himalayas. 

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We were hosted by friend and collaborator, Mahabir Pun. He’s a social entrepreneur and the reason our family became connected with Nepal.* Our grant making foundation has been working with him and his home village off and on for many years. And finally Mum and I had the chance to travel to the village in person, meet the community, and see the school my parents helped build and other projects we support IRL.** 

The unfamiliar mountain paths were steep, rocky, slippery. Even the trekking sticks Mum brought succumbed to the uneven terrain. But whenever she slipped, our friends in the village were there to pick her up. (And let’s be real: when I slipped, they picked me up, too!)

But the trip was a special one. The views of the Himalayas were truly breathtaking. And it was definitely worth the falls and scrapes we endured.***

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Sometimes I’m on top of the world (Literally in this case. Figuratively most other times), thrilled to be doing the work I do. In a city I love. With colleagues and clients I respect, trust, and enjoy talking to every day. 

But I confess I feel the pressure to say it’s going gangbusters. All. The. Flipping. Time. 

Being here in Silicon Valley, I feel an unspoken rule that entrepreneurs need to always say we’re killing it.  

Even when we’re not.


The thing is, though, I’m not. I’m not killing it. 

Sometimes I’m barely injuring it. At times, I’m chasing it, catching, and slapping it around a bit before it laughs at me and escapes. But when I have drinks or a meeting with someone, I confess there’s a pressure to be all: 

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In reality, once in a while, there are days when I’m scared. Scared shitless that this isn’t going to work out. That the phone will stop ringing. My email will stop pinging.  Or that I just can’t do this entrepreneurial thing after all. 

Can I be totally real? Today feels like one of those days as I write this. In fact, I stopped and started writing this like 10 times in the past week second-guessing myself. I was thinking “should I even be writing this right now when I feel like this?! I don’t know if my people want to hear this stuff.” 

But here is what I DO know, even when I’m feeling this way. It takes a village. Whether you’re raising a kid, hiking in the Himalayas, or growing your business….there’s no such thing as a solopreneur. I hate that word. Because it’s not true. 

I have SO MANY people in my life who help me do this business thing and make it fun. My husband. Stephanie. Ali. Maud. Butler. Wayne. My son. My mom. Our friends near and far. Our general contractor. My clients, colleagues, and contacts who lift me up, open doors, and create opportunities for me to grab. You know who you are. And I thank you. I am grateful. 

So I guess what I’m saying is - this feeling won’t last and thank you for accompanying me on this journey. I might slip and trip along the way, but I’m going to keep on.

So, do this. Think about the village that holds you up. Family, colleagues, friends, the grocer. Your mail carrier. The neighbor. Your parents. And thank them. 

Because we’re all in this together. Even when we’re not killing it.

Thanks, 
Emelia “I only drank a little bit of raksi” Rallapalli


PS: I learned more about the work Mahabir Pun is doing with his team at the National Innovation Center in Kathmandu, to help Nepal’s younger generation stay in the country, and bring their education, creativity, and talent back home to help their country grow economically and be self-sufficient. Currently, they’re working on initiatives like building drones for delivery of medicine to remote villages, incubators, and ginger drinks. Check out the Nepal Innovation Center here for more information and ways to support their work. 


*Backstory: in 2001, My dad read a BBC article about Mahabir who was trying to bring wireless internet access to his village. Dad liked his idea and go-getter spirit, so he emailed him to start working together. So they did. That’s it. It’s easier to connect that we think, huh? 

**Thanks to the introduction of helicopter service on the mountains! 

*** I brought a first aid kit – so all good. If you want my first aid pack list, let me know!